As a parent of three teens who are patients of Atrium Health Levine Children’s pediatricians, I have seen firsthand the importance of building a positive, trusting relationship with their doctor.
Taking your child to the doctor looks very different when they are 3 versus 13. Once your child turns 13, they are given more independence to lead their own health, helping them prepare for adulthood. Each visit includes a checklist to screen for mental health concerns and risky behavior like vaping and sexual activity. During these appointments, there is a point where I’m asked to leave the room so my child and the doctor can chat privately. As a mom, it feels strange not to be involved in every aspect of the appointment, but it’s crucial that they feel safe and comfortable discussing all aspects of their health. It was during one of these visits that we discovered one of my children was struggling with mental health issues. I credit their relationship with their doctor, the doctor’s ability to screen teens, and the trust we have built in their healthcare journey for catching these issues early.
Teaching your teen to build a positive relationship with their doctor and how to best communicate with them are some of the most important skills your teen can learn. We have partnered with Dr. Jennifer S. Davis Prabhu, a pediatrician with Atrium Health Levine Children’s Midtown Pediatrics, to provide tips to start building these skills.
5 Tips to Foster Trust and Communication Between Your Teen and Their Doctor
1. Respect Their Privacy and Autonomy
Respect your teen's growing need for privacy and autonomy, especially during medical appointments. Encourage them to speak directly with their doctor and provide space to discuss confidential matters. Assure your teen that their conversations with the doctor are private unless there are safety concerns that need addressing.
2. Encourage Independence and Preparation
As your teen matures, involve them more in decisions about their health. Encourage them to ask questions, seek clarification about their health concerns, and participate in discussions about treatment options. Empower them to take ownership of their health by scheduling their own appointments and managing their treatments and medical records when appropriate. Before the appointment, encourage your teen to jot down any questions or concerns they may have. This helps them organize their thoughts and ensures they don't forget anything important during the visit.
3. Promote Open Communication
Promote open and honest communication between your teen and their doctor. Emphasize the importance of expressing concerns, asking questions, and discussing any discomfort or fears they may have about medical visits or procedures. Help your teen understand that their doctor is there to listen without judgment and provide guidance.
4. Choose a Supportive and Teen-Friendly Doctor
Ensure your teen's current pediatrician is experienced in working with teenagers and creates a supportive environment. A doctor who listens actively, respects your teen's opinions, and communicates clearly and respectfully can greatly enhance the doctor-patient relationship. If your current pediatrician already has a good rapport with your teen, they can continue to be a trusted partner in your teen’s healthcare journey.
5. Role Model Healthy Attitudes Towards Healthcare
Set a positive example by demonstrating healthy attitudes towards healthcare. Attend regular check-ups yourself and openly discuss the importance of preventive care and seeking medical advice when needed. Avoid downplaying the significance of medical visits or expressing anxieties that may influence your teen's perceptions.
When to Be in the Exam Room with Your Child
Deciding whether to be in the exam room with your teen largely depends on their comfort level and the nature of the appointment. Consider the following factors:
- Age and Maturity: Younger teens or those new to healthcare interactions may feel more secure with a parent present.
- Complexity of the Visit: For appointments involving serious health concerns, procedures, or discussions about sensitive topics, your teen may benefit from your support and advocacy.
- Preference of the Teen: Respect your teen's wishes. Some may prefer to see the doctor alone to discuss personal matters, while others may want you present for reassurance or to help remember information.
By fostering trust, encouraging independence, and promoting open communication, you can help your teen build a strong, positive relationship with their doctor that will support their health and well-being throughout their adolescence and beyond.
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